What if Your Coping Strategies Aren’t Working for you Anymore, and How Trauma Therapy Can Help
In today’s world, with work deadlines, personal responsibilities, and endless social media notifications, it’s not uncommon to find ourselves reaching for a quick escape. But is that escape truly helping us reset, or are we actually adding to our stress without even realizing it? If you’re anything like me, you might grab your phone for a "break" only to find yourself scrolling for much longer than intended, only to end up feeling more drained than before. As we navigate the ups and downs of our daily lives, it's essential to be mindful of how we handle stress and choose coping mechanisms that truly support our well-being. This blog explores three common “self-care strategies” that don’t actually serve us, and what to do instead. If you are in need of more support, out licensed therapists at Counseling and Nature Therapy Center can support you with trauma therapy, and strategies to support change.
Doom Scrolling
Venting/Complaining
Vices: Drinking, Smoking, Binge-Eating
The Scroll Trap: Why Mindless Scrolling Isn't the Break We Think It Is
For many of us, scrolling through our phones has become the go-to way to “relax.” It’s quick, easy, and gives the illusion of escaping from the day’s stresses. But, more often than not, what started as a brief break ends up being a rabbit hole. Whether we’re checking emails, responding to messages, or getting lost in a sea of content that can actually make us feel worse, the screen doesn’t always offer the recharge we expect.
When we engage in mindless scrolling, we inadvertently stimulate our brains with endless content. Studies have shown that the blue light emitted from screens interferes with our circadian rhythm, potentially impacting our sleep and affecting our dopamine levels. Scrolling before bed can leave us wide awake long after we’ve put our phones down, compromising the rest we truly need. Rather than feeling rejuvenated, we often find ourselves more anxious or stressed out. In essence, we’re sacrificing our mental and physical health for a coping mechanism that rarely fulfills its intended purpose.
Instant Gratification vs. Sustainable Self-Care
It’s natural to want instant relief when we're feeling overwhelmed, and reaching for our phones offers that immediate distraction. However, this kind of instant gratification often lacks the nourishment our minds and bodies need to thrive. When our “breaks” don’t truly reset our minds or support our nervous systems, we end up feeling more tired, disengaged, and unfulfilled. Real self-care, however, often requires a bit more intentionality and sometimes even discipline. Activities such as a brisk walk, a few deep breaths, or a moment of mindfulness can do wonders for reducing stress and helping us find a true mental reset.
The Power – and Pitfalls – of Venting
Talking about our problems can be incredibly therapeutic, especially when it’s with someone who understands and supports us. In fact, venting can be an effective way to gain clarity, validation, and emotional release. When we vent to a friend, a therapist, or a trusted colleague, we’re not only sharing our emotions but also opening the door to processing and problem-solving. This form of emotional expression can be grounding, helping us feel understood and less alone.
However, when venting becomes a habitual way of connecting with others, it can turn into a cycle of negativity. We might find ourselves repeatedly rehashing the same issues, creating an environment where complaints dominate conversations. Particularly in work settings, venting can become reciprocal—one person’s complaint prompts another’s, which can lead to a cascade of negativity that leaves everyone feeling more stressed and dissatisfied. Over time, this repetitive expression of grievances can actually reinforce the stress and anger we’re trying to release.
One way to break this pattern is by setting boundaries around how we express negative emotions. For instance, journaling for a set period allows for emotional release without drawing others into a cycle of complaints. If venting with colleagues or friends, consider focusing on positive topics or interests outside of shared stresses to foster deeper, more positive connections. By balancing expressions of negativity with efforts toward solution-oriented thinking, we can keep our relationships supportive and uplifting.
The Lure of Vices: When “Quick Fixes” Create Bigger Problems
After a long day, many of us turn to small indulgences as a way to unwind—whether it’s a glass of wine, a candybar, or fast food. These are quick and effective at providing a sense of relief. However, when these small “treats” become a regular coping mechanism, they can begin to negatively impact our health and well-being. Over time, relying on vices to manage stress can lead to a cycle of dependency, with potential consequences ranging from physical health issues to strained relationships.
This pattern of coping can mask underlying issues. When we consistently reach for a quick fix to deal with negative emotions or stress, we bypass opportunities to address the core causes of our struggles, such as burnout, relationship challenges, or unaddressed mental health needs. Instead of truly addressing the root of our discomfort, we’re covering it up, creating a cycle that can lead to increased stress, poor health, and even addiction.
Breaking this cycle often involves looking beyond the short-term fix and exploring healthier strategies. Working with a therapist can be an invaluable resource, as it allows us to create a tailored plan for addressing our unique challenges. Therapy provides a space for self-reflection, guidance, and support, empowering us to find healthier ways to cope and build resilience.
Building Resilience with Mindful Self-Care
True self-care is more than just a buzzword. It’s a commitment to nurturing our minds, bodies, and spirits in ways that support long-term well-being. While mindless scrolling, venting, or indulging in vices might feel satisfying in the moment, they don’t provide the lasting benefits we truly need. By consciously choosing healthier strategies, we can build resilience and create a more fulfilling, balanced life. Here are some effective ways to engage in mindful self-care:
Regular Exercise: Physical activity not only supports physical health but also releases endorphins, helping to improve mood and reduce stress. Whether it’s a walk, a yoga session, or a workout, moving your body can offer a genuine mental break.
Healthy Social Connections: Building meaningful relationships allows for deeper emotional connections and support. Rather than bonding over shared complaints, focus on shared interests, laughter, and positive experiences.
Intentional Relaxation: Replace mindless scrolling with activities that promote relaxation, such as reading, engaging in hobbies, or practicing meditation. These mindful activities can offer a true break for your mind, helping to alleviate stress without the negative effects of screen time.
Establishing Boundaries: Setting boundaries around work, screen time, and even conversations can help protect your mental space. When you’re off work, for example, try focusing on personal interests or quality time with loved ones rather than checking emails or rehashing work-related concerns.
Therapeutic Support: Working with a therapist provides a structured, goal-oriented approach to managing stress and developing coping strategies. Whether you’re navigating mental health challenges or simply looking to improve your well-being, therapy offers a supportive environment for growth and healing.
Nature Connection: Spending time outdoors has been shown to reduce stress and promote relaxation. If possible, incorporate outdoor activities into your routine, such as walking, hiking, or simply sitting in a park. Nature offers a grounding effect that helps us reconnect with the present moment.
Choosing Sustainable Self-Care for Lasting Well-Being
Mindless scrolling, venting, and indulging in vices may offer quick relief, but these habits often fail to address the real sources of our stress. By recognizing the limitations of these strategies and making intentional choices to support our well-being, we can cultivate resilience and find true balance in our lives. If you’re ready to explore more personalized self-care strategies, consider connecting with a therapist at Counseling and Nature Therapy Center. Our team is here to support you on your journey to wellness.
Supporting Teens When Their Go-To Coping Tools Stop Working
For many teens, the world feels like it’s changing faster than ever—school pressures, social media dynamics, shifting friendships, family expectations, global events, and identity development all converge. If you’ve tried your usual “fixes” and they’re not doing the job anymore, you’re not alone. In our trauma-informed approach, we know that sometimes old strategies stop working because your inner world or outer world has shifted.
Why this happens
Your nervous system may be triggered in new ways, especially if you’ve experienced stress or trauma you didn’t fully process — and that means your previous coping tools might no longer be enough.
The “coping strategies” that used to help may have been designed for a past challenge; now you’re facing something new.
Relying only on quick fixes (scrolling your phone, avoiding emotion, venting without resolution) can leave you stuck rather than healed. As one article explains, “Coping strategies make us ‘feel better’ by helping us not to feel our true feelings.” Psychology Today+1
What trauma-informed counseling for teens can offer
At Counseling and Nature Therapy Center, we focus on that deeper level of seeing what is going on under the surface. Trauma therapy isn’t just “fixing” a mood – it’s helping your nervous system calm, your story make sense, and your coping toolkit evolve.
We help teens identify when a strategy is no longer enough and support the development of new, sustainable tools.
We work with body-based awareness (because trauma is stored in the body) so that teens can feel safer in their skin and respond to triggers rather than just react.
We guide teens in discovering their values, their voice, and the kind of person they want to be – so the strategies they pick align with who they are becoming.
At Counseling and Nature Therapy Center in Frisco, Texas, we offer both in-person and virtual sessions, making it possible to connect from wherever you are while staying anchored locally.
Practical steps for teens
Pause and reflect: “What used to work? When did it stop? What changed inside or outside me?”
Consider letting go (at least temporarily) of strategies that aren’t helping and experiment with one new tool—grounding, expressive art, movement, nature, journaling.
Reach out for support: You don’t have to figure this out alone. Trauma therapy and counseling for teens create a space of safety, curiosity, and follow-through.
Build a “toolbox” not a one-trick pony: Have several strategies you can rotate so you’re not stuck when one isn’t doing the job anymore.
Be gentle with yourself: It’s okay that you’re struggling. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’ve grown, changed, and your needs are different now.
As you navigate your days, remember: self-care isn’t about avoiding our stress—it’s about building the resilience to face it. Taking the time to nurture yourself with practices that truly support your mental health can create a more peaceful, fulfilling life. So, put down your phone, step outside, and take a deep breath. True self-care awaits.
If you need ideas for spending time in nature therapeutically, want to process in trauma therapy, or you need counseling for your teen, learn more at Counseling and Nature Therapy Center. Our Team of Therapists is available to support you on your healing journey. If you are ready to book, Contact Us. Our licensed therapists provide in-person and virtual trauma therapy in Frisco, Texas.
Here are three strong resources on how trauma therapy can support healing and reduce reliance on unhealthy coping mechanisms like substance use or other vices:
National Center for PTSD – Trauma, Substance Use, and PTSD
Covers the connection between post-traumatic stress, unhealthy coping behaviors, and how therapy provides healthier alternatives.
American Addiction Centers – Trauma and Addiction Recovery
Highlights how trauma therapy plays a vital role in reducing reliance on substances and supporting long-term healing.
